Losing my hair has ruined my life?
Jack Ryan Asked: Losing my hair has ruined my life?
I'm a 27 year old man, i have always been thought of as a good looking man by women, but my hair is starting to thin out and i can't handle it, this has destroyed my confidence, i hardly ever go out anymore and i'm now single because my girlfriend said i had changed ( which is probably correct ) it was probably for the best anyway as she most likely would have left me when my hair loss became noticeable anyway.
I probably have the worst type of personality to deal with this, i'm good at coping with things that i can control and have dealt with a lot of bad stuff, but this is different for many reasons, i think people are very flippant when it comes to how hair loss can affect a person.
1 : People look and treat you in a completely different way.
2 : I am losing my self image and having to become a different person.
3 : Women will no longer be attracted to me, which is the hardest thing for me to deal with.
4 : I no longer feel good about myself.
5 : People automatically presume they have an advantage over me.
6 : I'm still in my 20's and not one person in my family has lost their hair, dad, brothers, uncles and both grandads.
7 : I can't see a way to get over this.
I went to my doctor and he wouldn't prescribe me Propecia because it' blocks a hormone called DHT ( this is a form of testosterone, but much more potent ) which is responsible for hair loss, but he said it's that hormone that makes a man a man, and i could get all sorts of side effects. I don't know what to do or how to make myself feel better it's all i think about and i am slowly becoming a recluse socially and that is the complete opposite of what i used to be when i had my blond hair, now it's buzzed down really short and i hate it.
How do i get over this i want to improve, but i just can't get used to this, it sounds dramatic, but it has wrecked my life.
Answers:
I understand, my boyfriend is 21 almost 22 dealing with the same thing. I know it hurts him a lot but have you ever thought of maybe doing bosley? I don't know what the success rates are with it, but his parents are trying to talk him into making an appointment there. It doesn't bother me personally and honestly didn't realize how much it affected it men to lose their hair until he started making a bigger deal about it. I truly love him with hair or without, it doesn't matter to me. Until you find someone who will truly love you for who you are and accept you no matter what, it wasn't worth it.
Okay… why don't you have a hair transplant? You may be thinking about the money or whatever i don't even know how much it costs buttttttt didnt Wayne Rooney have a hair transplant? (Or is that just a rumour?) He's about 30 right?
ALSO, James Nesbit had a hair transplant. Google it all, they make people look a lot better and if you have one then you will be happy again, you will get your confidence back and women will be attracted to you again.
It's not your fault after all, you shouldn't have to suffer when there is help.
You just have to adjust to life without hair. It's only dramatic now because it's happening now. There are plenty of men who look good bald, you say you're thought of as good looking by women so it's not that bad. Your chances of finding someone new are highly, even if your confidence is low at the moment.
If your girlfriend would leave you because you lost your hair, then is that the type of person you want to be with anyway? Someone so shallow? It really is what's on the inside that counts you know.
1. Why would someone treat you different cos you have no hair? That's just stupid.
2. You don't have to become a different person, just be yourself still. I'm sure it wasn't your hair that got you family, friends and relationships was it?
3. Like I said above, some women find bald men attractive. (Especially if you look like Pepe Reina lol)
4. Remember your good qualities, nice eyes perhaps? Good sense of humour? Etc etc.
5. Advantage over you how? Cos they have hair? Stop being paranoid.
6. I hear baldness comes from the mother's side of the family, are the men on her side bald?
7. If you're still having difficulty dealing with this, buy a wig!
Seriously, you're making this far worse than it is.
shave it off.
Think Samuel L Jackson and Bruce Willis.
I think your gf left you because you changed, not because of your hair problem.
In fact, I know of various men who are experiencing, or have experienced, hair loss and became more attractive because of it.
It's a difficult argument, but when men experience hair loss, they could easily shave it off or try to keep it hidden. The rationale for shaving it off is that short hair is a lot more attractive than long hair and that it normally look less cool if you only have some hair as oppose to a full head of hair or no hair at all. Others who keep their hair want to do so because of their public image (professors, etc.). It really depends on what your tastes are.
Issues # 1-5 you have listed above is really just your perception and your lack of self confidence. Have you even asked any of these people? Have you read any articles online about baldness and dating? Have you looked around for models who are bald or people who are bald? Do you know of anyone who is successful and is bald?
Although I am not bald myself, I can vouch that your baldness does not hinder your success in anyway. It's your personality, attitude, and confidence that will determine that.
Hope this helps
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